Filter Connections I

‘Finally Abram said to Lot, Let’s not allow this conflict to come between us or our herdsmen. After all, we are close relatives!’ Gen.13:8

When a relationship becomes unhealthy, you need to filter it by the help of the Holy Spirit. There are three ‘C’s’ used in filtering connections; these ‘C’s’ will help inform the questions you should ask the Holy Spirit. The three ‘C’s’  are Confront, Can, or Cut-off. When you are faced with an unhealthy relationship do not sweep it under the rug. Instead ask the Holy Spirit – Should I to confront? Should I to can? or Should I to cut-off? In dealing with unhealthy relationships, you usually have to start with confrontation. After confrontation, it can lead to canning or to cutting off all together. Confrontation is having the difficult discussions. Confront the person with a true assessment of your relationship. ‘Finally Abram said to Lot’. Which means the situation was unhealthy but nothing was done about it. Until you flush the excuses and you have the tough discussion, you will continue in the bondage of that baggage. If you choose not to stay under the pressure of this baggage, then you need to confront the situation. You need to have the discussion. David also had to have this kind of discussion/confrontation 2Sam15:32-34; 2Sam17:1-14. There are people who may not necessarily mean harm but perhaps for a season they don’t need to be with you. Others are more useful to you when they are away from you or speaking for you in other places. Hanging around you might result in them becoming a baggage. You need to discern that by the help of the Holy Spirit. Sometimes, you need to start by having the tough conversation with yourself. You need to confront yourself about certain unhealthy relationships you are holding unto. Understand what is informing your need to keep that relationship alive and what the direction for that relationship is. In such cases, it is only after you have confronted yourself that you are better able to confront the other person. You need to have the tough conversation, confront the situation. After the confrontation, you need to determine whether to can or to cut-off by the help of the Holy Spirit.

Prayer: Father, help me by Your Spirit to filter every connection in my life. Equip me with the purpose and direction for each one so that I know how to act according to Your plan, in Jesus Name.