Your Responsibility

‘The humble will see their God at work and be glad. Let all who seek God’s help be encouraged’ Ps.69:32

I feel a need to stress this point again because a lot of people have abandoned their destinies for greener pasture. Yes, the grass sometimes appears greener on the other side. When you stand at a distance, the grass can look greener on the other side. But the reality is that when you get closer to that grass you will find that it is not greener. The grass is only greener where it is watered. So water your own grass. If someone else’s grass is looking greener to you, that should tell you that you need to go and water your own grass. Go and water your grass. The only person that looks more beautiful as you get closer and closer is Jesus.

When you realize that love and sex is a journey, it is a marathon and not a sprint, and then you pace yourself. You need to understand that you have to consistently choose your wife/husband. If you get this principle right, your life will change and your marriage will grow. You have to consistently choose your spouse over yourself and over other men/women. So you see a beautiful woman and you acknowledge that she is beautiful but you go back and choose your wife.  It is an opportunity for you to water my own grass. And because you know it is a marathon and not a sprint, then you are responsible for your happiness. Your spouse is not responsible for your happiness – wake up, you are responsible! Some husbands just cry like babies. If she does not make you happy then make yourself happy. The Bible says ‘and David encouraged himself in the Lord’. In fact is scientifically proven by psychologists that less than 10% of happiness is dependent on external factors. 90% of happiness is an internal thing. So you can do everything to make someone happy but if the person is not going to be happy, the person won’t be happy. So you have a problem on your hands – someone that is totally insecure, disgruntled, and cannot draw joy from the Lord. You have to understand that you are responsible for your own happiness. You cannot delegate your happiness to your spouse. Your happiness is your sole responsibility. If you discover that you are unhappy, encourage yourself in the Lord.

Prayer: Father, grow me in Your presence so that I can bear fruit in my other relationships, in Jesus Name