Causes Of Disagreement I

“Do two people start travelling together without arranging to meet?” Amos 3:3 [GNT].

Today, we pick up from where we left off yesterday. The first cause of disagreement is failure to meet. In some marriages, there are two people living in the same house but they are just flat mates; they do not meet. They have agreed or decided to marry but they must also agree to meet. It is one thing to decide to get married but it is another thing to agree to meet. The fact that we are going in the same direction – marriage, doesn’t mean we have to go together. And we do the same thing with God. There are some Christians that even though we are all going to heaven, we are not going together. Someone says to me that she is a believer and she can get married to any man as long as he is a Christian. No, you cannot! If you try it, you will discover that you cannot. You cannot just marry anybody because he or she is a Christian. Two cannot walk together except they agree.

The second cause of disagreement is not agreeing on the course of direction. In other words, we have decided to walk together but we do not agree on the course of direction. So, two people want to walk together but one person has decided to head north and the other person has decided to head south. Even if they have agreed to walk together and they hold hands, what will happen? If they insist on holding hands, one hand will have to give way. “Can two people walk together without agreeing on a course of direction?” Amos 3:3. Similarly, the reason a lot of us struggle to have companionship with God is because God wants to go in one direction and we want to go in another direction. My question to you today and this is a question you must honestly ask yourself, are you agreeing with God? Agreeing on the course of direction is key and you will see why. God knows that there is going to be conflict in marriages because it is two full-fleshed human beings, coming together with each one having his or her own ideas. So, sometimes they are not in sync. But God set things up in such a way that we do not have to see eye to eye on every issue before we can walk hand in hand on crucial issues. God has set up things in marriage to work in an orderly way. God says, when it comes to the marriage, the husband is the head of his wife. So if there is a conflict in direction and the husband decides to head north while the wife decides to head south, the direction that should take precedence is the husband’s. But in some homes they have decided to operate a democracy, to take turns with whose direction will take precedence. I am sorry but marriage is not designed to work that way.

Prayer: Father, I pray that in my life, in my home, and in my marriage, it is Your Way that will take precedence, in Jesus Name.