Domestic Affairs I

“Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting for those who belong to the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and never treat them harshly” Col.3:18-19 [emphasis added]

God is interested in domestic issues. He is interested in how we run our households. Paul kicks off by addressing wives, please take note he is not addressing women but wives specifically. “Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting for those who belong to the Lord”. What does submission mean? Submission means to submit. There will be no issue of submission if there is no conflict of ideas. So the fact that God is saying submit means God knows there will be conflict of ideas. And God is saying if there is a conflict of ideas, the wife should submit. Scientists tell us that the average woman is more intelligent than the average man. Men, I did not make this up, it is science and research. Research says the average woman has more neural connections than the average man. Perhaps this is why God is saying, I you think you are smarter but submit. Submit means he is the boss. And that is the major issue for certain women.

If you are married and reading this today, this will totally set you free. If you are not married yet, this places you at a vantage position because you need to begin to evaluate the man you want to submit to. But God is saying you need to submit. So how do you submit? “Wives, be subject to your husbands [subordinate and adapt yourselves to them], as is right and fitting and your proper duty in the Lord” Col.3:18 [AMP emphasis added]. Subject there is a very strong word, it almost sounds like it is infringing on your freedom but that is what the Word of God says. “…Be subject to your husbands”; how should you be subject to your husband? Subordinate. How is the term subordinate used? At work the person that reports to the boss is a subordinate. So what you cannot say to your boss at work do not say to your husband. Many of us, if we say the things we say to our husbands to our bosses at work we would have been fired. So you can control yourself with your boss at work? You can right? God is saying control yourself at home. You can respect your boss at work right? It means it is in you, you have the ability to respect inside you. Respect your husband at home. I did not write it, it is the Word of God. Subordinate and adapt yourselves. Two human beings that grew up in different backgrounds with different fully formed characters come together out of love. Without love nobody will get married on earth. Love blinds, the person that says love does not blind has not fallen in love. Love blinds but marriage will open your eyes. Yet you need the blindness to enter marriage otherwise nobody will get married. The mysteries of God!

Prayer: Holy Spirit, teach me how to daily submit and adapt myself to my husband. Help me show respect for my spouse in all situations, in Jesus Name.