Think Differently II

“Using a dull axe requires great strength, so sharpen the blade. That’s the value of wisdom; it helps you succeed” Ecc.10:10

“Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting for those who belong to the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and never treat them harshly” Col.3:18-19 [emphasis added]. Women, if you can successfully respect your husband, it will change your marriage totally. If your husband comes home and feels like a king, it will change your marriage totally. So what should you be doing? Let that be your obsession. Ask yourself how you can make your husband feel like a champion. Think. Ask questions.

During my counseling sessions, the ladies particularly can be very interesting. When the wife starts to claim that her husband has self-esteem issues because he says she does not respect him, I usually would take an orange and start to eat it very dramatically. The couple, of course, starts to wonder why I am eating the orange like so dramatically. When I am sure I have their full attention, I say to the woman this orange is very sweet. Then I wait a little while and I say this orange is very sour. I see the confusion on her face. And I say in fact this orange is salty. At that point, she knows I am getting at something. I say to her, you cannot prove me wrong because you are not the one tasting it. I am the one tasting this orange and I am the only one that can tell you if it is sour, sweet or salty.

Your husband is the one receiving the respect you think you are giving. Who should know if it is real respect or not? The man. As long as he does not feel respected, you have not done it. As long as your wife does not feel loved, you have not done it. The easiest way to find out if your wife feels loved or not, is to ask her. And many times you do not even need to ask, just interact with her and you will know.

You can apply this to your business and your job. What is that one thing that if you can crack it, it will change the game for you? Make it your obsession and until you crack it, do not stop. “Using a dull axe requires great strength, so sharpen the blade. That’s the value of wisdom; it helps you succeed” Ecc.10:10. Focus on the one thing that is essential for victory.

Prayer: Father, please give me the wisdom to sharpen the axe in my marriage, my business, my home, my finances, and my spiritual life, in Jesus Name.