Compass

1 Cor.7:³ “The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. ⁴The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. ⁵ Do not deprive each other of sexual relations…”

Some wives feel like this is the only Scripture that their husbands can quote verbatim. But the truth is that your body is not your own as our scripture reference today reveals. Check your own Bible and confirm. As a husband or a wife you cannot base intimacy on how you feel. The Bible frowns at it and calls such people defrauders. There is pleasurable intimacy and there is dutiful intimacy. Also in marriage, you cannot approach intimacy seeking your own fulfillment or feelings; you will not get anything that way. When the focus is on the other person in intimacy, then intimacy will be fulfilling.

If you notice, God did not say husband fulfill your needs and wife do the same. Even the Word of God points us to where to focus when it comes to sexual intimacy. No relationship will survive with one person always putting his or her own need above all else. Your relationship with God, particularly in worship, begins with God as the sole focus. If you are married, I challenge you today to pursue your spouse and you will see how the equation will change beautifully. If you are not married, the truth is that you cannot take what is not yours. If you do, you will end up disappointed. Sexual fulfillment comes as a reward of the pursuit of a person. The pursuit of a feeling will leave you bewildered and empty.

Sexual fulfillment comes when it is a reward of the pursuit of your number two. Your spouse is your number two and Jesus is your number one. You need to understand this and settle it forever! And it is so liberating to know that I am my wife’s number two and God is her number one. Why? It is because only God can satisfy her totally. It is liberating even for me to know that my wife is my number two and God is my number one. So I am not looking to her to fill what only God can fill in my life. It takes the weight off her, off me, and off our relationship. If you put the weight of your deepest desire on another human being, you are going to crush that person and end up disappointed.

Prayer [song]: Jesus, You are the center of my joy. All that’s good and perfect comes from You. You are the heart of my contentment, hope for all I do. Jesus, You are the center of my joy. Amen!