Comrades vs. Confidants

Proverbs 17:17 “A friend loves at all times… is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.” (NKJV & NLT)

Comrades are the people we usually call friends. Comrades exist because you have a common enemy. They are not for you. They are not against you. They are not for what you are for. They are against what you are against. However, it is important to note that once the problem that both of you have in common is resolved, then there is nothing to sustain that relationship. Many people have married their comrades. The problem with marrying a comrade is once you solve the problem that both of you have in common, there is nothing more to live for. For instance, when two people are running away from “poverty”, “poverty” becomes a common enemy. Then, God blesses them, they overcome “poverty, and become very comfortable.

Guess what? The common enemy is gone. And this is why some people just wake up and quit their marriage. The point is what brought them together no longer exists. The truth is they were just comrades. Do not marry a comrade. Except, of course, the comrade transitions. Conspirators hardly transition. Constituents can transition. Comrades can also transition. Your comrades are against what you are against. They are not against you. They are not necessarily for what you are for. They are not even for you. They are for what you are against. And we all need comrades. We all need friends. But do not get it twisted. A comrade remains a comrade except they have transitioned. 

The fourth category of relationships you need in your life is Confidants. Confidant exists because of you. In the 2 Kings 4 story, the confidants were the woman’s sons. Confidants are people that when they go down, you go down, they go down with you. When you go down, they go down, you go down with them. The interesting thing about confidants is that they sometimes do not always see what you see or agree with what you agree with. But guess what? Confidants are always for you. I have been blessed with a couple of people like this.

They do not always see what you see. Maybe because of your gifting you see further, or maybe you see a different direction or dimension to things. Confidants do not always agree with you. But they are always for you. I pray in the Name of Jesus, that God will bring people into your life that will be for you, in the Mighty Name of Jesus. True loyalty is embodied in the confidant. They are the true friends; the friends that love at all times as described in the scripture.

Prayer: Father, even as You bring confidants into my life, I ask that You empower me to be a loyal friend, to love at all times, in Jesus Mighty Name. Amen!