The Workshop

2 Timothy 3:^16-17 “All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right. God uses it to prepare and equip his people to do every good work.”

Marriage is not a competition. Marriage is cooperation. A two-headed anything is a monster. The church cannot have two heads. Christ Jesus is the head of the Church. Jesus is the shepherd. The Bible says the Pastors are the under shepherds, they are not the head of the Church. Jesus is the head of His Church. The man is the head of his family. There cannot be two heads, because any two-headed anything is a monster. When we go deeper into marriage as the love lab, we will see that God actually put us on earth for two things. Firstly, God put us on earth to learn how to love and know Him. Secondly, God put us on earth to learn how to know and love other people.

The whole Bible can be summarized into two sentences. Jesus summarized it Himself into two sentences. You will love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your body. And guess what? You will love your neighbour as yourself. On that lies everything. Everything that God is trying to communicate. Everything that Jesus came to achieve is hinged on those two sentences. Life is not about achievements. Life is about loving and learning how to love. The truth is, particularly in this generation and in this world, we do not even know what love is. We are confused about that concept of love because the word love is used to describe different things that are not even really love.

For instance, you do not have to learn how to be attracted to someone. You can just see someone and you are attracted to the person. Or you can see someone and like Adam say, “Huba, Huba, Huba!!!” But guess what? Adam had to learn to love Eve. While you do not have to learn to be attracted to someone, you have to learn how to love that person. That is why when two people get married based on attraction and they call it love, they are shocked when they get married because the attraction is suddenly not sufficient. They discover that hard work is required to learn to love the other person. And everyone has to put in that hard work.

Sadly, that is why people are confused, and marriages are failing. Attraction is not love. Attraction is a good thing, do not get me wrong. It can help you learn to love somebody. It makes learning to love easier. But attraction is not love. Attraction can help you learn to love someone. Being attracted to someone can make the journey of learning to love easier.

Prayer: Father, seeing the depth of marriage as revealed these past few days shows me how much I need Your help on this journey. Lord, help me do it Your way, in Jesus Name. Amen!