Secret Saving

‘So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband’ Eph.5:33.

Every Christian home should have a sense of security and it is the responsibility of the husband to provide that security. So, it  does not come as a shock to me when a woman asks if it is acceptable to have a secret saving account. Some even want to know if they are really required to tell their husbands their exact wage. The reason why this question pops up varies from one woman to the next but the underlining emotion that drives it is security. With one woman, as soon as she got married, her mum began to pump her with the need to set money aside to build a house for herself just incase her husband sends her away. The mother is already prophesying a broken home and she receives it and teams up with her mother; it will come to pass. You don’t enter marriage thinking or saving up for divorce. If you do that then you are setting yourself up for destruction, believe me. Why did you get married if you can’t trust him? Trust is the foundation of every relationship. You need to trust your husband. When my wife was in paid employment, interestingly every time she gets a salary, she transfers it into my account. Regardless of how many times I tried to talk her out of it, she just kept doing it. Now that’s my wife, you cannot insist that your wife should do the same. I also did not abuse the trust because that may have killed it totally. You must understand that it is a relationship thing. You have to build that trust and protect the trust. For a couple I knew, the husband was an extremely generous man. For the wife this was not necessarily problem except when he gives away the children’s school fees as well. So she began to save so that she can cover such areas. At some point she had saved enough for the down payment for their house. Her husband was really impressed. This is why you are two, while one person may have a weakness in the area of finances, the other may be strong in savings. As long as it is for the collective good of the family, then the wife can save money. Yet she must remain submitted to her husband and committed to her marriage.

Prayer: Father, help my husband/wife and I to fully leverage the strength of two that You have given us. Help us stay submitted and committed to each other, in Jesus Name.