Honor Her

‘So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband’ Eph.5:33.

A lot of people find themselves in abusive relationships. Even some Christian marriages today are under the yoke of abuse and God will break the back of it today in Jesus Name. Godly women who are being severely beaten up by their husbands are wondering if they should stay in the abusive relationship. If you are a woman in such a marriage relationship reading this, let me on behalf of all the men say we are very sorry. We apologize and by the help of the Holy Spirit, we won’t do that again!

The truth is that there is no excuse really. Another truth is that there is no perfect marriage. Yet beating up your wife is just plain wrong! The Word of God says that ‘each man must love his wife as he loves himself’. Since you would not beat yourself up then please stop beating your wife. I know that men who beat up their wives are quick to claim that it was because of something the woman did. The truth is that no one can make you do what you do not want to do. We are responsible for our actions and must give account for them. It might seem as though the natural response to conflict is to beat up that woman but it is not the godly thing to do. ‘In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered’ 1 Pet.3:7. God’s Word is enough for the wise. Beating your wife is not honoring her!

If you are in an abusive marriage, I would advise that you seek counsel immediately. Depending on how bad the abuse is, you may need to relocate. Not divorce! What you are doing is running away so you can live to fight for your marriage. Some people may not agree with this course but that it is the reality of the world we live in. You can’t keep pounding her and expect that she’d remain there. But women need to be sure they are not the ones inciting the beating. ‘…and the wife must respect her husband’. Ladies please help us – help your husband! Is that ok? Please.

Prayer: Holy Spirit, I submit my temperament and emotions to You. Lord, please help me honor my spouse and not hinder Your move in my life, in Jesus Name.