Holy Matrimony II

‘The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. Do not deprive each other of sexual relations…’ 1Cor.7:3 & 5

Marriages today are under intense attack from within and without. Some people cannot stand the threat of infidelity that is looming around their partner. Some partners are hurting the other deeply just because they refuse to control sinful pleasures. How do you want your wife who has caught you cheating in the past to feel when she consistently has to still watch you flirt with women? How does she know you are flirting? God gave our women the gift of intuition. You need to make amends with God and with your wife. If you are the woman in such a relationship, you want to first find out if your husband is really saved and ask God to save him. Some men and women refuse to sever links to their past relationships even after they get married. It is wrong! The Bible says there must not be a hint of sexual immorality among you. You are hurting your spouse and your marriage. For some they are dealing with the scar of infidelity. Some are ready to quit while others are willing to move on. Forgiveness is possible, total forgiveness is possible with the Holy Spirit and godly counsel. You may need to attend counseling sessions to help you heal because infidelity is a deep wound but healing is possible. In some marriages, the husband or wife has decided to move out of their matrimonial bed into another room in the house. Well sometimes this is the problem of the rich. If you had only one room to share and the other for the children, your wife would have to stay with you. But because there are many rooms in the house moving out is possible. Why should you move out of your husband/wife’s room? It is wrong. If there is a problem that needs to be tackled then seek counseling but do not move out of the room. The Bible says you should not defraud your partner. Moving out translates to defrauding them of sexual relations, which makes you a robber. God cannot bless you like this. He wants to but you are not positioning yourself right. My advice is that you should have a sincere discussion with your spouse, go through 1 Corinthians 7 and if the problem persists then seek counseling in that area.

Prayer: Heavenly Father, heal my heart of past and present hurt; heal my spouses’ heart of past and present hurt. Lord restore our marriage completely, in Jesus Name.