Be Merciful

‘There will be no mercy for those who have not shown mercy to others. But if you have been merciful, God will be merciful when he judges you’ James 2:13

The second type of abuse is verbal abuse. Verbal abuse is so subtle. I think this is one of the greatest destroyers. Physical abuse is major but verbal abuse is one of the greatest destroyers of marriages. Verbal abuse is when one partner just consistently speaks horrible things to the other partner. The husband/wife makes the other person look like a fool or an idiot consistently. It is an abuse. This kind of abuse needs to stop from both sides but more from the person that is on the receiving end. Some people are currently trying to justify what they have been doing. It is abuse pure and simple. There are better ways of advising, motivating, or correcting your spouse. There are more subtle words you can use to get your spouse to see things from your point of view.

The third type of abuse is the emotional and psychological abuse. It is as if the abuser is waging a psychological warfare. He/she consistently tortures their partner psychologically. This is also known as mental abuse. The abuser’s aim is to get the other person to a certain position but rather than respectfully going in the path that God honors, the abuser subjects the person to psychological torture. Some people are very good at this. There are people who go through this kind of challenge in their marriage but you will never know because they have the cheerful confident disposition. I encountered one of such cases and I never would have guessed that anything like that was happening. Until one day in early hours of the morning, I am not even sure if I was praying or not but I was with the Lord. And I just saw the person in the house cowering and hiding. It did not add up. So I called and confronted the situation and the whole story unfolded and my jaw dropped. Mental, psychological abuse.

It is amazing how much attack marriages are under. Make it a point to devote time to praying for your marriage and your spouse whether you are single or married.

Prayer: Father, I pray for my home and the homes of everyone reading this today; that abuse will have no place in our homes, in Jesus Name.