Category Archives: Relationship

Men’s View vs God’s View I

So God created human beings in His own image… God blessed them and said, “Be fruitful and multiply. Fill the earth and govern it… And I have given every green plant as foodGen.1:26-30

 

Human beings generally have one view or the other about themselves. How you see yourself can be classified as either healthy or unhealthy. The word ‘unhealthy’ basically means something dangerous or something harmful; also used in reference to our choice of food or lifestyle. The word ‘view’ is defined as Read the rest of this entry

Offloading Unresolved Pain II

You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, all whose thoughts are fixed on you!Isaiah.26:3.

 

It is impossible to keep wounds fresh and to keep the pains away. Keeping the wounds fresh will only keep the pain fresh. Many of us think that by keeping the wounds fresh, we are punishing the people who have hurt us. The truth is that you are only punishing yourself. The next step to offloading the baggage of Read the rest of this entry

Fill The Void

Don’t be drunk with wine, because that will ruin your life. Instead, be filled with the Holy Spirit’ Eph.5:18

 

The mistake a lot of us make is that, even though we really cut-off from toxic relationships, we neglect to fill the void. When you cut off, it creates a void, particularly if you had emotional connections to that relationship. ‘Don’t be drunk with wine, because that will ruin your life. Instead, be filled with the Read the rest of this entry

Filter Connections II

‘…Take your choice of any section of the land you want, and we will separate. If you want the land to the left, then I’ll take the land on the right. If you prefer the land on the right, then I’ll go to the left.” Gen.13:9

 

It was after Jacob confronted Laban that he was able to access the next step of the toxic relationship [Gen.30:25]. In some cases, the next step might be to can the relationship. To can simply means to restrict influence or access. So after you have confronted the person and you have discerned that the Read the rest of this entry

Filter Connections I

‘Finally Abram said to Lot, Let’s not allow this conflict to come between us or our herdsmen. After all, we are close relatives!Gen.13:8

 

When a relationship becomes unhealthy, you need to filter it by the help of the Holy Spirit. There are three ‘C’s’ used in filtering connections; these ‘C’s’ will help inform the questions you should ask the Holy Spirit. The three ‘C’s’  are Confront, Can, or Cut-off. When you are faced with an unhealthy relationship Read the rest of this entry

Unhealthy Baggage

Everything is pure to those whose hearts are pure. But nothing is pure to those who are corrupt and unbelieving, because their minds and consciences are corrupted’ Titus 1:15

 

Relationships are like baggage, not all are necessarily bad. However, the toxic ones have a way to deterring your pilgrimage. Relations are crucial to your destiny and its fulfillment. ‘The godly offer good counsel; they teach right from wrong. The wicked wait in ambush for the godly, looking for an excuse to kill Read the rest of this entry

Discern Your Relationships

Corrupt people walk a thorny, treacherous road; whoever values life will avoid it’ Prov.22:5

 

 

As long as you maintain your relationship with the Holy Spirit, you possess the God given ability to read people. The Holy Spirit is able to tell you who people are right from your very first acquaintance. When you ask, you need to learn to trust what He tells you and act accordingly. It is possible that you will make Read the rest of this entry

Unhealthy Links

‘Yes, a person is a fool to store up earthly wealth but not have a rich relationship with God’ Luke 12:21

 

As human beings, we are wired for relationships. Yes, the company that you keep is very crucial. The need for relationships dates back to the day a child is born. The first thing doctors do is to hand the child to its mother for cuddling. There is a lot of scientific research that shows dysfunction in the children Read the rest of this entry

Unhealthy Relationships

‘Don’t be fooled by those who say such things, for bad company corrupts good character’ 1Cor.15:33.

 

‘Don’t fool yourselves. Bad friends will destroy you’ 1Cor.15:33 [CEV]. It is interesting that God is emphasizing to us the aspect of deception as relates to unhealthy relationships. In other words, we can easily be deceived into believing that we can hang out with the wrong group of people and still remain Read the rest of this entry

Face To Face IV

‘Don’t store up treasures here on earth… Store your treasures in Heaven… Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be’

Matt.6:19-21

 

How have I been greedy and how can I be generous? We must get rid of the ‘get all you can and can all you get mentality’. You cannot have things in your wardrobe that are gathering dust when there are people who need those things. If you have cloths that you have to be reminded about, then the truth is that Read the rest of this entry