Qualify Your Relationships I

‘Saul now urged his servants and his son Jonathan to assassinate David. But Jonathan, because of his strong affection for David told him what his father was planning…’ 1Sam. 19:1-2b

Your first step in growing relational roots is to qualify your relationships. It is based on the Spirit guided groupings that you know how to go about growing roots in various relationships. T.D. Jakes in his message highlighted three categories of relationships, which are very powerful. And I have added a fourth one based on the African consciousness of spiritual warfare. Every one in your life falls into one of these four categories, you need to discern them and relate properly.

Confidants are people that are for you. Your confidants are loyal to you as a person. With your confidant you do not need to explain your reason for specific actions. Whereas with people who are not your confidants, you need justify every step you take. Your confidants may not really understand your vision, they may not understand what you are doing, and they may actually think you are crazy but they are still for you. We all need people like this in our lives. Your confidant is the closest relationship you will ever have. It is the relationship you should treasure the most. Erroneously a lot of us think our confidants are those we tell our secrets to. The truth is that some of us have told our secrets to our enemies without knowing. Your secrets should be with your confidant. Your confidants are for you no matter what.

Constituents are not necessary for you but they are for what you are for. The reason they are with you is because of where you are going. The day you change direction, their direction will also change. Unfortunately many of us have grown to love our constituents and we erroneously think they are confidants. This is why we get bruised and wounded when they choose to part ways with us. Your constituents are not really for you; they are for what you are for. And as long as it can benefit them, they will stay with you. The moment it stops being of benefit to them, they will check out.

Prayer: Precious Spirit of God I ask for the grace to discern accurately the people around me. Guide me as I grow relational roots in this season, in Jesus Name.