Eph.5:21 And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. (emphasis added)
We spent the last two days explaining, in line with scripture, what submitting one to another means for the wife. Today, we will focus on what submission means for the husband. Eph.5:25-29 “For husbands, this means love your wives (HOW?) just as Christ loved the church.
He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church.” (emphasis added).
A man said to me, ‘Pastor, this (Eph.5:21-33) actually favours women more than men.’ I said, ‘Exactly! God always protects the weaker – always!’ That is why the Bible says men should treat their wives with understanding so that their prayers will not be hindered (1 Peter 3:7). That is God’s protection for the weaker vessels. But people without understanding think it is a subservient rule that God has established. They interpret submission as meaning that wives must be slaves. Yes, the Bible says wives must submit in everything but remember it is as unto the Lord. A boundary only exists if (hopefully not when), the man tells his wife to go outside of the will or outside the Word God.
If your husband has not asked you to do something outside of God’s Word or God’s Will, then, wife please submit one hundred percent. Let’s say, for example, the wife is a Ph.D. holder and she has picked a school she believes is the best for the children. But her husband objects and picks another school which does not match the standard of her choice. Until he has enough understanding, the wife must submit and send the children to the school he wants, no questions asked! When it comes to authority and submission in the boundaries of God, it has nothing to do with who is right and who is wrong. It has everything to do with God’s order and rule. If the man says the family has to pray for one hour every night before bed, submission requires his wife says, ‘yes sir!’ – end of story! Wives, do I get an Amen? Why should you argue with that, is that not in God’s will? Eph.5:33 “So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” (emphasis added).
Prayer: Father, give me the grace to be a doer of Your Word, not a hearer alone, deceiving my own self, in Jesus Name. Amen!