Category Archives: Marriage
Love Is Patient
‘Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud. Love never gives up, never looses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance’ 1 Cor.13:4 &7
We go into marriage with a lot of expectations and when these expectations are dashed many lash out at their spouses. Again I would advise that the best way to manage your spouse’s expectations is to be transparent. For instance, your wife comes to you with genuine needs for the home and to her it appears that your first response to every need is that you do not have the money for it. The longer she feels this way, the more likely she is to lash out at you. Even when you eventually meet the necessary needs, you will find that she Read the rest of this entry
Family Finances
‘Wisdom is even better when you have money. Both are a benefit as you go trough life. Wisdom and money can get you almost anything but only wisdom can save your life’ Ecc.7:11-12
Marriage is God’s gift of two to us because the Bible states clearly that two are better than one. Money is good but wisdom can save your life. Wives listen to your husbands and husbands listen to your wives. What they say could very well save your life. We must also remember that marriage is God’s gift to us here on earth. Scripture says there is no marriage in heaven, so make the best of this gift while you are here and glorify God by leveraging the strength of two that He has given you. You do not have to see eye to eye in Read the rest of this entry
Holy Matrimony V
‘Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights”. Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out’ 1 Cor.7:4 [MSG]
There are men/women who have gotten married and sometimes a few days after marriage or sometimes one year after suddenly have no desire to be intimate with their spouse. You cannot keep quiet about this and allow the other person in the marriage to suffer. You need to seek help immediately because like the Bible points out, it is not about you anymore. Marriage is a decision to serve the other person whether in bed or out. Sometimes, the sudden lack of desire for intimacy has its roots in spiritual issues. To the glory of God Read the rest of this entry
Holy Matrimony IV
‘Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it’s for the purposed of prayer and fasting –but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it’ 1Cor.7:5 [MSG].
I am trusting that God will lift every burden in our homes even as He takes us to answers in His Word to nagging questions in our lives and Jesus will be glorified. Some people are amazed about how weighty the topic of intimacy is in marriage. The truth is that it is a very important topic and the Bible dedicates 1 Corinthians 7 to answering a lot of questions that might arise in this area. For instance, there are some husbands/wives that do not feel that it is right to be intimate with their spouse while fasting. And some other Read the rest of this entry
Holy Matrimony III
‘Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency’ 1 Cor.7:5 [KJV]
The Word of God says, ‘one shall chase a thousand and two shall chase ten thousand’ and this is one of the reasons why the enemy is waging a deliberate war against marriages. We ought to realize that marriage is an earthly gift from God. The Bible clearly states that there is no marriage in heaven. So be determined to make the best of it. Resolve that your spouse will get the best loving from you. One key area the devil uses to put pressure on marriages is in the area of sexual intimacy. The husband is either flooded with too many Read the rest of this entry
Holy Matrimony II
‘The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. Do not deprive each other of sexual relations…’ 1Cor.7:3 & 5
Marriages today are under intense attack from within and without. Some people cannot stand the threat of infidelity that is looming around their partner. Some partners are hurting the other deeply just because they refuse to control sinful pleasures. How do you want your wife who has caught you cheating in the past to feel when she consistently has to still watch you flirt with women? How does she know you are flirting? God gave our women the gift of intuition. You need to make amends with God and with your wife. If you are the Read the rest of this entry
Holy Matrimony I
‘Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge’ Heb.13:4 [KJV]
There are varying opinions out there about marriage and what is ‘acceptable’ within the confines of marriage especially on the topic of sexual acts in marriage. Are there wrong sexual acts inside of marriage – is oral sex allowed within marriage? Some people would tell you that engaging in oral sex, anal sex, masturbation, pornography within marriage is wrong. I would personally not group oral sex with anal sex, pornography, and masturbation. I agree that engaging in masturbation and pornography is wrong because it hurts Read the rest of this entry
Honor Her
‘So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband’ Eph.5:33.
A lot of people find themselves in abusive relationships. Even some Christian marriages today are under the yoke of abuse and God will break the back of it today in Jesus Name. Godly women who are being severely beaten up by their husbands are wondering if they should stay in the abusive relationship. If you are a woman in such a marriage relationship reading this, let me on behalf of all the men say we are very sorry. We apologize and by the help of the Holy Spirit, we won’t do that again! Read the rest of this entry
Primary Responsibility
‘Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies. Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life’ Prov.31:10-12
Cultures vary from place to place but God has clearly defined the role of the man and the woman within the marriage relationship. Depending on the season in a marriage, responsibilities within the home can be shuffled around. So you are a young couple and your wife has just landed a job that pays her a salary that is four times your combined salaries. And you want to know if it’s acceptable to be a stay at home dad to allow her focus and maintain stability within the home. It’s definitely something to think about but you need to Read the rest of this entry
To Correct And Teach
All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right’ 2 Tim.3:16
Today we will continue our discourse on relationships so as to learn what is wrong in our lives and let God’s Word teach us and equip us for good works even amidst our relationships. There are quite a number of Christians who are engaged, not married yet but have begun to sleep with their intended spouses. Some are just doing it, not ignorantly but because it seems everyone is doing it. Again it is important to know that not everyone is doing it, just those who are vocal about it and so it seems like it has become acceptable. Do not Read the rest of this entry
