Category Archives: Relationship
Yours vs. His
“Don’t be selfish… Be humble…. Don’t think only about your own affairs, be interested in others too, and what they are doing. Your attitude should be the same that Christ Jesus had. Though He was God, He did not demand and cling to His rights.” Phil. 2:3-6[ emphasis added]
When you are really in Christ Jesus, you have given your rights to God. That is what being a Christian is. If people really understand this, all the stress in marriages will go. The problem with us is that we confuse our wants with our rights. Read the rest of this entry
Dealing With Conflict
Don’t be selfish… Be humble…. Don’t think only about your own affairs, be interested in others too, and what they are doing. Your attitude should be the same that Christ Jesus had. Though He was God, He did not demand and cling to His rights.” Phil. 2:3-6
Three things jump out at us from this passage of Scripture. The first of which is Selfishness. It is my way or the high way. Folks that do not get their way by bullying, try to get their way by manipulations. It is still selfishness. The second thing we see there is Pride. God says be humble because when we act in pride, we tend to be demanding and unsympathetic.
Your Focus
“You should keep a clear mind in every situation.” 2 Tim. 4:5 [emphasis added]
The second type of stress is the Stress of Conflict. We are all different and because of this, conflict is an inevitable part of life. Conflict is never fun; it can be stressful. I do not enjoy conflict. The difference is that I have just accepted that it is a part of life and that is why it appears that I respond appropriately with conflict. So how does one eradicate conflict?
#1. In conflicting situations, the first thing you do is Change Your Focus. Change your focus from your needs to the Read the rest of this entry
Phases
“Now to the God who can do so many awe-inspiring things, immeasurable things, things greater than we ever could ask or imagine through the power at work in us” Eph.3:20 [Voice, emphasis added]
Intention is key in any relationship. It is more important to know the intention of a gift than to receive the gift. Which is why I often say to ladies, what are the intentions of the gentleman that keeps buying you gifts? There is no such thing as he is just kind hearted; find out his intentions. Am I saying a man cannot just have good intentions? There is no free lunch in Freetown, they say. Am I saying people cannot give you gifts out of a good heart? My question is, can a man Read the rest of this entry
Speak The Word
“The earth was formless and empty, and darkness covered the deep waters. And the Spirit of God was hovering over the surface of the waters. Then God said, “let there be light,” and there was light” Gen.1:2-3 [emphasis added]
#2. Speak His Prophetic Word. I need to do my part to unleash the Power of the Holy Ghost to do that which I cannot do. Once I am aligned with God, the next thing I need to do is speak His prophetic Word. “Then he said to me, “Speak a prophetic message to these bones and say, ‘Dry bones, listen to the word of the Lord!” Eze.37:4 [emphasis added]. He did not say think, He did not say imagine, and He did not say mutter. You can have a prophetic message from God, but until you speak it nothing happens.
Re-Position
“Then he asked me, “Son of man, can these bones become living people again?” Eze.37:3
To unleash the Power of the Holy Spirit, to unleash the Spirit of God in our favour, there are two things that you and I must do.
#1. Align With God. To unleash the Power of the Holy Spirit in your favor, you need to align with God. You have your own ideas; agreed. Some people even have their own idea of how God should be God. They look at how the whole world is and say, God, if I were God I can do a better job. Arrogance! You think you are better than God? Align with God, that is the first thing you need to do. And I will show you in Scripture.
Because He Lives
“Roll the stone aside,” Jesus told them. But Martha, the dead man’s sister, protested, “Lord, he has been dead for four days. The smell will be terrible.” John 11:39
Lazarus was not only sick, he died. He did not only die, he was buried and he had started decaying. In other words, bacteria and fungi had begun to feast on him, releasing ammonia or whatever waste product they release that causes the stench of a dead body. By now the irreversible appears to have happened. By now Jesus, it is impossible for You to do anything. Because Lazarus came back to life, everything that represents Lazarus in your life will come back to life. Because Jesus is alive, it will come back to life. I beseech you [using Paul’s terminology], do not take this season Read the rest of this entry
Address It
“The second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ No other commandment is greater than these.” Mark 12:31 [emphasis added].
#2. A High Level of Self-Esteem- to unlock concerted action, you must have a very high self-esteem and this is so important. I study great people, great men and women- that is one of my interests. And one huge thing I have seen is that great men and women like themselves and they respect themselves. It is amazing how comfortable they are in their own skin. And because they like and respect themselves, they are able to like and respect other people.
Number Power
“Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble” Ecc.4:9-10
It is standard practice that when the enemy wants to destroy someone he starts by isolating them. The first time he pulls them out, they do not even notice on time. It is like a bonfire; if you pull a log out from the fire, it will still have fire on it. That log, by itself, will still burn for a while. So you find such people being arrogant and full of themselves because they think they are doing well by themselves. Guess what? Slowly but surely the fire will go off. When the Read the rest of this entry
With Jesus
“Each one of you will put to flight a thousand of the enemy, for the LORD your God fights for you, just as he has promised” Josh.23:10 [emphasis added]
Concerted action is the key to synergy. You cannot have synergy without pulling together. Synergy is so key! So what is synergy? Synergy simply means, as far as human effort is concerned, one plus one will always be greater than two. You cannot have synergy without concerted action. God wants us to synergize, to pull together. God says to us, “go to the ants and learn…” He is not just saying go and learn diligence. Yes, there is diligence to be learnt from the ants but Read the rest of this entry
