The Help Mate
‘And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him’ Gen.2:18
Yesterday we said that some men pass through seasons in their lives where they are unable to function as providers for their family. It is the responsibility of every wife to understand how hard this is for her husband and support him through that season. Support, encourage, and pray for your husband because he will come out of that season in Jesus Name. There is no one that stays in God’s Favourite House that will remain poor. I say this with all humility and the integrity of God in my heart. I have made a covenant with God upon this house Read the rest of this entry
The Provider
‘But if any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his own house, he had denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel’ 1 Tim.5:8 [KJV].
The father is the provider. Fathers provide, that is what we are designed to do. A man that is not providing is malfunctioning, he cannot be happy. A man feels happiest when he is able to provide for his family. There was a time my wife and I needed to do something and naturally she asked me for the money. I did not have the money we needed at the time and it made me feel very bad. On getting to work that day, God blessed me with so much more than we needed. Even though I knew how much money we needed, it delighted my heart to Read the rest of this entry
Protect Your Child II
‘Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths’ Prov.3:5-6 [KJV].
As a protector, it is your responsibility to protect your children against abuse and molestation. Some people abandon their children because of social functions and relatives, neighbors, or house helps molest these children. The children do not want to talk to their parents because they are hurt that their parents abandoned them and that was why something bad happened. It is natural for your children to see you as their protector. If you watch any child who is faced with danger, the first person the child runs to is the parent. This Read the rest of this entry
Protect Your Child I
‘Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell’ Prov.23:14 [KJV].
You protect your children by disciplining them. Some people say when the Bible says the rod it is not referring to flogging rather it is referring to admonishing. The rod is the rod. The same Bible says foolishness abounds in the heart of a child but the rod of correction will chase it far away. If I wasn’t flogged perhaps I would be doing something else today. My mother, God bless her, insisted on and enforced discipline. The truth is that if you spare the rod, you will spoil the child. Fathers these days don’t want to flog their children. You Read the rest of this entry
The Protector
‘Then David asked the Lord, “Should I chase after this band of raiders? Will I catch them?” And the Lord told him “Yes, go after them. You will surely recover everything that was taken from you!’ 1Sam.30:8.
The father is the protector. Your family should be able to run to your arms for protection. Your wife should be able to put her head on your shoulder and feel safe. When the father looses his ability to protect the family then the power of headship is eroded. Fathers operate a domain; you have to protect your domain. You have to protect your wife. There is a rule that we operate in my family, we don’t really have extended family issues but even the little ones that come up, I protect my wife. No matter what she has done, it is not in the hands of Read the rest of this entry
The Progenitor II
‘On that very day Abraham took his son, Ishmael, and every male in his household, including those born there and those he had bought. Then he circumcised them, cutting off their foreskins, just as God had told him’ Gen.17:23
God expects the fathers to mold and determine the culture. Culture simply means ‘how people behave’. Every institution has a culture [church, family, business etc.] whether spoken or unspoken. The culture can either be directly and intentionally influenced or left to chance. God expects you as the father to determine the culture in your home. In other words your children know that there is a zero tolerance to stealing or gossip. As a progenitor, you need to be known for something and pass same to your children. In God’s Favourite Read the rest of this entry
The Progenitor I
‘Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live?’ Heb.12:9 [KJV]
The foundation and purpose of fatherhood is headship. The man is the head of his wife and invariably the head of his family. To be a successful father, you must understand and deploy the power of headship. We have termed the five qualities that translate to power in headship the ‘five P’s’. Any of the ‘P’s that is lacking will translate to an erosion in that headship. And if there are a number lacking, the head technically just becomes a figurehead. Yet all that will come to an end this season in the Name of Jesus. So if you are a married Read the rest of this entry
Joint-Heirs
‘And if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together’ Rom.8:17[KJV]
Someone I was discipling some years ago had an issue and he was about to walk out on an institution that had been a great blessing to him. Naturally, I had to step in and attempt to influence him. The issue was that his boss, a woman, perhaps had some expectations he did not meet so she was very hard on him and he was livid. While lamenting, he said ‘how can a woman talk to me like that’. At first I did not understand him, so I asked what he meant. And he said ‘I have her type at home’. I replied ‘well she also has your type at home’. He Read the rest of this entry
The Power of Headship
‘Then God said to Abraham, “your responsibility is to obey the terms of the covenant. You and all your descendants have this continual responsibility’ Gen.17:9
Every man wants to be successful. There is no man really that does not want to be successful. In fact the craving of the heart of everyman is to be successful. But if we do not understand what success really means we will end up not being successful in our efforts to be successful. The best definition of success that I have come across is the one given by John Maxwell “you are successful when the people that know you the most and are closest to you respect you the most”. That is tougher than being a millionaire, believe me. If the people Read the rest of this entry
Excel in Giving III
‘Give generously to them and do so without a grudging heart; then because of this the Lord your God will bless you in all your work and in everything you put your hand to’ Deut.15:10
Finally, God wants me to be generous because giving blesses me in return. ‘Generous people will be blessed…’ Prov.22:6 [NCV]. A lot of us wonder how come the people who seem to have keep getting more while those who seemingly don’t have don’t get at all. It is because the rich have learnt the heavenly principle of ‘give and it will come back to you, good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over…’. I often say that the door out of poverty is labeled ‘give’. It may seem like all that you have but when God leads you to give Read the rest of this entry
