In Marriage

‘The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife’ 1 Cor.7:3-4

For you to have a fulfilled marriage you must experience Philia, Agape, and Eros. If you are married and all you have been experiencing is Philia and Agape then you cannot have a fulfilled married life really. Singles are even better positioned because they don’t need to be worried about Eros. One mistake a lot of married people make is compartmentalizing sex and viewing it as separate from love. In marriage, sex is love. I hope this doesn’t sound contradictory. Do not compartmentalize sex. You find couples who claim to be so in love yet when you probe further, they have not been intimate in over a year. They say they are content to just hold hands. It is a lie because when you investigate, you will find out that someone is receiving something somewhere else. In marriage you cannot separate love and sex. Love is expressed in sex and sex is expressed in love. They are mingled together. Married women particularly need to understand this. Married women, I have good news for you, your husband is not a pervert. He is not a rabbit. He is simply expressing his love for you. I once had a new bride who ran to me panting and seeking help because her husband was going to kill her. Naturally I was concerned and asked what the problem was. And she says everywhere and every time her husband sees her he wants to have sex. ‘Pastor, will you help me please, this man has a problem’. I assure you that the man is not on drugs, not a pervert, and not a rabbit. He just loves you. I am sure you are wondering what kind of love that is but that is how the man is wired. When a man loves his wife, all he wants to do is have sex. And in some cases it is the other way round. But in most cases, 85% of the time, it is the men. You cannot separate love and sex in marriage. An alarming percentage of women regulate sex with their husbands. What you are doing is very wrong and against God’s Word. God is saying your body does not belong to you [1.Cor.7:3-5].

Prayer: Father, help me to daily fulfill the vows I made to my spouse on our wedding day. Help me honor my spouse with my body, in Jesus Name.