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Steps To Freedom III
‘In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker then you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered’ 1Pet.3:7.
Today we will be learning some very important lessons from the story of a notable man of God. We began yesterday by saying his wife recently divorced him because he had neglected her. During the interview he said that top on his priority list was God, then the ministry, and then family. So God first, after that he attends to the ministry, and if he has anytime left he attends to family. You and I know that there will be no time left because the ministry work Read the rest of this entry
Steps To Freedom II
‘But we prayed to our God and guarded the city day and night to protect ourselves’ Neh.4:9
The third step towards freedom from abuse is to confront the abuser and the abuse. When you are confronting it you have to trust God for the outcome. This is where a lot of people miss it. They want to confront the abuser and they want to control the outcome. You cannot. When you are confronting the abuser and the abuse, you have to trust God for the outcome. The outcome can go anyway if it is a marriage relationship, which is what we are dealing Read the rest of this entry
Steps To Freedom I
‘We countered with prayer to our God and set a round-the-clock guard against them’ Neh.4:9 [MSG]
The first step towards freedom from abuse is silent no more. One of the traits of an abusive relationship that is sustained is, the victim keeps quiet in an attempt to avoid shame. I pray that you will not die in silence. If he is threatening to beat you up then tell him that if he threatens you ever again you will escalate it. The abuser will continue to abuse you if he knows you are his puppet. But if he knows that he cannot treat you like this and expect Read the rest of this entry
Shovel And Sword
‘Again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband’ Eph.5:33
Again I say, you have to consistently choose your wife. You have to consistently choose her over your selfish self and over other women. The same thing goes for the women; you have to keep choosing your husband again and again. The wife is not the property of the husband. Traditionally, men think that the woman is their property, even though they don’t say it but they act it. She is not your property! She willingly submits to you out of love for you Read the rest of this entry
As Yourself
‘In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself’ Eph.5:28.
There is a French adage that says, “he who loves well, punishes well” [translated]. This was the mindset and pride of the medieval man. They believed that loving their wives meant punishing and disciplining her. And they even try to quote scripture, ‘the child that God accepts, God chastises’. She is your wife – not your child. You will never see in the Bible ‘husbands discipline your wives’. The mentality of the abuser, they think they have to take personal Read the rest of this entry
Mindsets
‘Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it …God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you’ Rom.12:2 [MSG]
Apart from the fact that the abuser has a major fundamental problem, the problem in an abusive relationship is not communication. The problem in an abusive relationship is the mindset of the abuser. This is so important because I have seen people try to address an abusive relationship as if they are addressing a communication problem. And many times it is a mindset that the person has had for decades. In some cases it stems from bad Read the rest of this entry
Be Spirit Controlled
‘Better to be patient than powerful; better to have self-control than to conquer a city’ Prov.16:32
The fourth type of abuse is economic abuse. Perhaps at the beginning of the marriage a couple sells a major inheritance and entrusts the running of the business to the man as the head of the home. And the woman commits to taking care of the children. Then the business becomes very successful and because the man wants to get his wife to a certain position, he withdraws finances. Even though Read the rest of this entry
Be Merciful
‘There will be no mercy for those who have not shown mercy to others. But if you have been merciful, God will be merciful when he judges you’ James 2:13
The second type of abuse is verbal abuse. Verbal abuse is so subtle. I think this is one of the greatest destroyers. Physical abuse is major but verbal abuse is one of the greatest destroyers of marriages. Verbal abuse is when one partner just consistently speaks horrible things to the other partner. The husband/wife makes the other person look like a fool or an idiot consistently. It is an abuse. This Read the rest of this entry
As You Should
‘At last! The man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called woman, because she was taken from man’ Gen.2:23.
‘In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered’ 1Pet.3:7. When it comes to the subject of abuse, a lot of people have many questions running Read the rest of this entry
Your Responsibility
‘The humble will see their God at work and be glad. Let all who seek God’s help be encouraged’ Ps.69:32
I feel a need to stress this point again because a lot of people have abandoned their destinies for greener pasture. Yes, the grass sometimes appears greener on the other side. When you stand at a distance, the grass can look greener on the other side. But the reality is that when you get closer to that grass you will find that it is not greener. The grass is only greener where it is watered. So water Read the rest of this entry
