Category Archives: Relationship
Your Seed
‘Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him. Children born to a young man are like arrows in a warrior’s hand’ Ps.127:3-4
A number of us are emotionally attached to people we are in relationships with. And when such people experience a loss we are moved with compassion for them. As such we want to lend a hand now and again to help make up for the emptiness they feel. However there are lengths that we must think carefully about before engaging. For example, a divorced or single woman who weighs her options and settles on having a child to fill the emptiness she is feeling, approaches a young man she is close to for a sperm donation. Read the rest of this entry
Salvation vs. Deliverance
‘Jesus spoke to the people once more and said, “I am the light of the world. If you follow me, you won’t have to walk in darkness, because you will have the light that leads to life’ John 8:12
A number of Christians both old and new are puzzled by the salvation versus deliverance subject. Some say, since knowledge is a form of deliverance then why do people need to go for deliverance? Others wonder if there is a difference between salvation and deliverance because the Word of God states that whom the Son of man sets free is free indeed. Some Christians will tell you that salvation is the ultimate covering for all things so there is actually no need for deliverance from past deeds. Read the rest of this entry
Love Is Patient
‘Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud. Love never gives up, never looses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance’ 1 Cor.13:4 &7
We go into marriage with a lot of expectations and when these expectations are dashed many lash out at their spouses. Again I would advise that the best way to manage your spouse’s expectations is to be transparent. For instance, your wife comes to you with genuine needs for the home and to her it appears that your first response to every need is that you do not have the money for it. The longer she feels this way, the more likely she is to lash out at you. Even when you eventually meet the necessary needs, you will find that she Read the rest of this entry
Holy Matrimony V
‘Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights”. Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out’ 1 Cor.7:4 [MSG]
There are men/women who have gotten married and sometimes a few days after marriage or sometimes one year after suddenly have no desire to be intimate with their spouse. You cannot keep quiet about this and allow the other person in the marriage to suffer. You need to seek help immediately because like the Bible points out, it is not about you anymore. Marriage is a decision to serve the other person whether in bed or out. Sometimes, the sudden lack of desire for intimacy has its roots in spiritual issues. To the glory of God Read the rest of this entry
Holy Matrimony II
‘The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. Do not deprive each other of sexual relations…’ 1Cor.7:3 & 5
Marriages today are under intense attack from within and without. Some people cannot stand the threat of infidelity that is looming around their partner. Some partners are hurting the other deeply just because they refuse to control sinful pleasures. How do you want your wife who has caught you cheating in the past to feel when she consistently has to still watch you flirt with women? How does she know you are flirting? God gave our women the gift of intuition. You need to make amends with God and with your wife. If you are the Read the rest of this entry
With God And With Men I
All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right’ 2 Tim.3:16
As a child of God you have to let your relationship with the Father dictate your relationship with man and not vice versa. People often wonder if surrendering to Christ means opting out of their existing relationships. Well the truth is that most of the relationships that started outside of Christ start on a wrong foundation. Therefore, when you find Christ you find out that the things that used to connect you suddenly do not exist anymore. Christ has suddenly become the center of your own world and not the person you are in a Read the rest of this entry
Virtue
‘Everything is pure to those whose hearts are pure. But nothing is pure to those who are corrupt and unbelieving, because their minds and consciences are corrupted’ Titus 1:15
There is virtue in remaining a virgin till marriage but some Christian men claim that they have experienced rejection because of this virtue. I am certain that a Christian woman who is totally submitted to God will not have issues with her husband for being a virgin. Again the women who are rejecting you, are they really saved themselves? Check! Once you are truly saved, Jesus Christ becomes the center of your life and you are attracted to purity. In fact, I would have thought that I would be the woman complaining that it is Read the rest of this entry
Draw Near!
‘Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened. For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And to everyone who knocks, the door will be opened’ Matt.7:7-8.
Many Christians are consumed with the feeling that they are far from God and they cannot hear Him speak or feel His tangible presence. You want my advice; follow the path that God has carefully laid out in His Word. ‘Draw near unto God and He will draw near to you!’ What are you waiting for? You need to make the first move. The truth is that God has reconciled you and I to Himself so that we can have a relationship with Him. A relationship is between two people and it involves both parties speaking and getting to Read the rest of this entry
Honor Her
‘So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband’ Eph.5:33.
A lot of people find themselves in abusive relationships. Even some Christian marriages today are under the yoke of abuse and God will break the back of it today in Jesus Name. Godly women who are being severely beaten up by their husbands are wondering if they should stay in the abusive relationship. If you are a woman in such a marriage relationship reading this, let me on behalf of all the men say we are very sorry. We apologize and by the help of the Holy Spirit, we won’t do that again! Read the rest of this entry
Primary Responsibility
‘Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies. Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life’ Prov.31:10-12
Cultures vary from place to place but God has clearly defined the role of the man and the woman within the marriage relationship. Depending on the season in a marriage, responsibilities within the home can be shuffled around. So you are a young couple and your wife has just landed a job that pays her a salary that is four times your combined salaries. And you want to know if it’s acceptable to be a stay at home dad to allow her focus and maintain stability within the home. It’s definitely something to think about but you need to Read the rest of this entry
