Author Archives: God's Favourite House
Unselfish
“Don’t be selfish; don’t live to make a good impression on others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourself… Your attitude should be the kind that was shown us by Jesus Christ, who, though He was God, did not demand and cling to His rights as God…” Phil. 2:3,5-6 [TLB]
Everyone has the potential to be selfish in his or her relationship. And we said one of the ways to think clearly about our relationships is to look to Jesus as our example. If unselfishness is a major key to a great relationship, how then does one become unselfish? One man admitted to me that he knows that he is selfish but he does not want to do anything about it. I pointed out to him that he risks losing his marriage and he did not mind that cost. Some people just do not want to be selfless. The truth is you cannot have a great Read the rest of this entry
His Steps
“But be sure in deciding these matters that you are living as God intended, marrying or not marrying in accordance with God’s direction and help, and accepting whatever situation God has put you into” 1Cor.7:17 [emphasis added].
Truth be told, not everyone will get married. I know it is an unpopular thing to say but it is in the Bible. However, if you desire to get married, you will in Jesus Name. When I read this Scripture some years ago, the first thing I did was to ask God to tell me if He wants me to get married or not. God saw my heart; I was ready to accept whatever He said. You know what God said to me, go and get married. It was almost like He was saying if everybody says they will not get married, you better not try it because you cannot cope. Go Read the rest of this entry
Love Works IV
But be sure in deciding these matters that you are living as God intended, marrying or not marrying in accordance with God’s direction and help, and accepting whatever situation God has put you into.” 1 Cor. 7:17 [TLB, emphasis added]
When you ask God, be ready to do what He says. It may not make sense to you now but it will do you good for years to come. A young man came to the office to tell me about the three girls he was keeping simultaneous relationships with and had invested in. He was ready to get married and settle down and he wanted God to pick a wife for him from the three ladies. The impression I got of the Lord at the time was, what if it is none of them? And I told him but he insisted it had to be because he had “invested” in all three ladies.
Love Works III
“Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” 1 Cor. 13:7 [emphasis added]
You will be shocked at the number of divorce cases that happen because no one had the courage to say there was a problem or because everyone decided to avoid confrontation. “…we can trust God to do what He promised” Heb.10:23 [NCV]. There is only so much that you can do in your strength. Do not kill yourself. Confront the elephant in the room. I know it is going to make you uncomfortable but it is inevitable. It is obvious that there is no other way because what you have been doing has not worked. So why not just do what the Read the rest of this entry
Love Works II
“Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” 1 Cor. 13:7 [emphasis added]
As human beings, we sometimes drift out of love in our relationships. And weeds will grow on anything that you abandon. So what do you do when you discover that you have drifted apart maybe because you focused too much on work or allowed a season to take too much out of you? What do you do when you find yourself in a place where your heart and your feelings are absent? What you do is to act in love. Acting in love will mean still opening the door for your wife even though you do not feel anything yet.
Love Works I
“Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” 1 Cor. 13:7 [emphasis added]
God wants us to understand that relationships, particularly covenant relationships, can be very tough. But at the end of the day, love overcomes all things. I once saw a video of a couple that grew old together in marriage. Along the line, the woman became ill even to the point of not recognizing the husband. But that man stayed fully committed to loving his wife. Only love can take you through such situations and keep you there everyday. “Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” I Cor. 13:7 [emphasis]. In real life you will face real disappointments but love endures through every circumstance. So what is that huge disappointment that you feel? Go to God with your disappointment and watch God do a miracle. Read the rest of this entry
God Alone!
“Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love.” Eph. 4:2 [TLB, emphasis added]
An anonymous quote reads, “You do not need a perfect relationship, you need someone who would not give up on you”. Will you be that person that would not give up on your loved ones? Go to God with disappointments and give it to God. The root of disappointment is expecting from a person what only God can deliver. When you expect from a person what only God can deliver, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. You are setting yourself up for disappointment when you expect another human being to Read the rest of this entry
Love Endures
“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” 1Cor.13:13 [NIV, emphasis added].
Go to God with the disappointments you feel in your relationships. However, in cases of character flaws, God says make allowances. For some people, the allowance might require you standing up to fill a gap in your relationship for a season. And in some other cases, it may mean a temporary separation until the other person is able to take responsibility for those errors and correct them. However, it does not mean you should give up on the relationship altogether because you never know what God can do. Sometimes the Read the rest of this entry
Allowance Not Excuses
“Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God” Rom. 15:7 [NIV, emphasis added].
If two people agree on everything, one person in the relationship is not necessary. For example, my wife fills some kegs with water. Years before, it would have been a major issue for me because I cannot understand why. She would say it is a standby for when there is no water. My thoughts were, women just want some form of security, so I dismiss it. Then one day, the water supply was actually cut off and I would have gone around smelling the whole day if she had not kept that water. Then I finally understood. The truth is that Read the rest of this entry
Simply Different
“So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.” Gen. 1:27 [NIV]
Yesterday, we established that some of the greatest frustrations we face in relationships are because we are different. We easily conclude, because the other person is different, that the other person’s actions are wrong. But difference is not error; difference is just difference. Many parents think that their teenage children are unwise. Many teenagers think their parents are old school. Many mothers in-law think their son’s wives are wasteful. Many wives think their husband’s mother is a witch. Many husbands think their Read the rest of this entry
