Category Archives: Relationship
Build Trust
‘The woman was surprised, for Jews refuse to have anything to do with Samaritans. She said to Jesus, “You are a Jew, and I am a Samaritan woman. Why are you asking me for a drink?” John 4:9
I came across Bill Hybels’ model for leading people to God. We have actually been doing it but he articulates it perfectly. It is called the 3D model. I am sure we have come across the word 3D before. To help us remember this simple model and deploy it on a daily basis is the word 3D. So what are the 3D’s of breaking the ice?
Steps To Freedom I
‘We countered with prayer to our God and set a round-the-clock guard against them’ Neh.4:9 [MSG]
The first step towards freedom from abuse is silent no more. One of the traits of an abusive relationship that is sustained is, the victim keeps quiet in an attempt to avoid shame. I pray that you will not die in silence. If he is threatening to beat you up then tell him that if he threatens you ever again you will escalate it. The abuser will continue to abuse you if he knows you are his puppet. But if he knows that he cannot treat you like this and expect Read the rest of this entry
Shovel And Sword
‘Again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband’ Eph.5:33
Again I say, you have to consistently choose your wife. You have to consistently choose her over your selfish self and over other women. The same thing goes for the women; you have to keep choosing your husband again and again. The wife is not the property of the husband. Traditionally, men think that the woman is their property, even though they don’t say it but they act it. She is not your property! She willingly submits to you out of love for you Read the rest of this entry
Consistently Choose
‘Three things will last forever – faith, hope, and love – and the greatest of these is love’ 1 Cor.13:13
Love and sex are marathons. They are not sprints -they are marathons. Some people have a level they want to get to in their sexuality with their spouse and they want to achieve it on day one. That is not the way to go about it because you will hurt yourself and you will hurt your relationship. Sometimes, some things take time. You grow in loving your wife. As a man I had to learn, and you Read the rest of this entry
Physical, Spiritual, and Emotional Oneness
‘The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality –the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband’ 1 Cor.7:3 [MSG]
Sex is a physical, spiritual, and emotional oneness. Sex transcends the physical. Meaning, sex is not just physical. When you have sex with someone, you are not just physically vulnerable to the person; you also carry every disease the person has. Therefore, you are also spiritually and emotionally vulnerable. So if the person is carrying a baggage of curses, when you have sex with him/her what happens is you get it too. When the person is carrying legions of demons when Read the rest of this entry
Leave Eros Alone II
‘Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready’ Sng.3:5.
Love is as strong as death. Love intoxicates and anything that intoxicates seeks to control. Love makes you do weird and crazy things so if you awaken it before time you would be in serious trouble. Is it love to wash the undergarments of a woman? If she is your wife yes, there is nothing wrong with it. Sadly, some of us cannot love our wives that freely and that is not right. I can proudly say that I have washed the undergarments of only one woman and she is my wife. I am not Read the rest of this entry
Leave Eros Alone I
‘Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right’ Sng.8:4.
If you are single, leave Eros alone until marriage. ‘I plead with you, I beseech you o women of Jerusalem not to awaken love until the time is right’ [Please also read Songs of Solomon 2:7, 3:5, 8:4]. And this is so important for those of us that are single. Don’t awaken this thing called Eros until the time is right. You will mess up too many things in your life. Let the sleeping dog lie. Don’t awaken it until the time is right. Why such a strong plea not to awaken love ahead of Read the rest of this entry
Anti-Seduction Strategy II
‘The woman approached him, seductively dressed and sly of heart… She threw her arms around him and kissed him, and with a brazen look…’ Prov.7:10 & 13
Anti-seduction strategy two: Access Control. For instance, everybody can log into a network but not everybody has the same access control. Some people can access some files while some people cannot. Some people can get to some certain servers while some others cannot. Some servers are even demi-literalized zones [DMZ]; you do not even know they exist. You need to have access control in your life. There are certain people that you should not hug because they Read the rest of this entry
Discern The Prey
‘Love wisdom like a sister; make insight a beloved member of your family. Let them protect you from an affair with an immoral woman, from listening to the flattery of a promiscuous woman’ Prov.7:4-5.
When it comes to one person leading another person to sexual sin, women are mostly deceived and men are mostly seduced. It is possible to seduce a woman and to deceive a man but women are mostly deceived and men are mostly seduced. ‘And it was not Adam who was deceived by satan. The woman was deceived, and sin was the result’ 1Tim.2:14. It was Eve and not Adam who was deceived. Why didn’t the serpent speak to Read the rest of this entry
The Key Of Communication I
‘It’s only the fruit from the tree in the middle of the garden that we are not allowed to eat. God said, ‘You must not eat or even touch it; if you do, you will die’ Gen.3:3
The third key to having a great relationship whether married or single is the key of communication. All these keys are from Adam and Eve’s relationship. Adam failed on two grounds. Firstly, Adam failed to communicate accurately with Eve. And that is almost always a problem in our homes. The way men communicate is different from the way women communicate. A man will just summarize and give you bullet points and go on with his Read the rest of this entry
