Category Archives: Abuse

Readjust

Prov.23:4 Do not wear yourself out to get rich; have the wisdom to show restraint” [with emphasis]

 

I understand that after reading yesterday’s devotional, some people are still wrestling with the concept of being a workaholic. Some others are in denial and some people just want to know where the line is so they would not cross it, or to ascertain whether they have already crossed it or not. Read the rest of this entry

Behold…

Genesis 29: 25 “But when Jacob woke up in the morning—it was Leah! “What have you done to me?” Jacob raged at Laban. “I worked seven years for Rachel! Why have you tricked me?”

 

If you put the weight of your deepest desire on any human being, you are going to crush them. I do not care how big your husband’s biceps are or how talented your wife is, if you put the weight of your deepest desire on him or her, you are going to crush them. The reason this will happen is because they cannot carry the weight and you will be left disappointed. The times that I have been unhappy are the times I expected a human being to fill my tank. Subconsciously, I shifted my gaze from looking to God to fill my tank, to Read the rest of this entry

Unshakable

“I leave it all in the Lord’s hand; I will trust God for my reward.” Isa 49:4 [emphasis added].

 

You need to develop a thick skin and a soft heart. Unfortunately, many of us develop a soft skin and a thick heart. And as a result, you are irritated at any small thing because our skins are so sensitive and our hearts are  hardened [unforgiveness]. God wants you to reverse it. He wants you to have a thick skin and a soft heart, quick to forgive. So what if someone says something about you? My grandmother would usually say, the person said it with his or her Read the rest of this entry

The Gospel

‘The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he hath anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor; he hath sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to preach deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty them that are bruised’ Luke 4:18 [KJV]

 

A colleague of mine said that in Nigerian churches there is too much warfare. They are constantly praying against the devil. Everything is fall down and die. Everything cannot be falling down and dying. If every thing is to fall down and die, then all of us will not be here today. While there is nothing necessarily wrong with praying violently, but there is an abuse of it. My colleague was insisting that in the United Kingdom, they never had to pray like that. And I said the demons we are facing here are different from the ones in the Read the rest of this entry

Know The Truth

‘Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth’ 3 John 1:2 [KJV]

 

You are rich! Some people have a problem with Christians prospering, have you noticed? People criticize Christians for prospering, saying all sorts of things because of the abuse in the church and rightly so. The truth is, everything that God has blessed man with, man has abused. God saw Adam in the garden and said it is not good that man should be alone; I will give him a wife [a help meet]. And men continue today to Read the rest of this entry

Guard Against III

Tell them to use their money to do good. They should be rich in good works and generous to those in need, always being ready to share with others.1Tim.6:18.

 

Every terrain comes with its own challenges and being rich is not left out. Even as the Lord continues to increase us, you and I must guard against being distracted from our true priorities. Riches give us the power to create options and many times those options are outside of God’s will. A typical example would be a man who tells his wife that even though he loves her, he needs her to know that he has options. And Read the rest of this entry

Guard Against II

‘Though the Lord is great, He cares for the humble, but He keeps his distance from the proud’ Ps.138:6

 

Guard against anything that attempts to steal your adoration of Jesus. You see people who never had issues with tithing. And as they remained committed, God began to bless them and in a way God opened doors that even they would never have imagined. Then they began to delay in their commitment. Some would even demand that you show them where tithe is in Old Testament or New Testament. I know you Read the rest of this entry

Guard Against I

‘This was the last thing the official expected to hear. He was very rich and became terribly sad. He was holding on tight to a lot of things and not about to let them go’ Luke 18:23 [MSG]

 

From the story of the rich man it is clear to see that being rich comes with certain problems we must be aware of and guard against. When you are rich, it is harder for you to depend on God and that’s the truth. If you don’t believe me or you are saying that is not possible, it is because you’ve not tasted real money. But you will not only taste, you will own real money. And this is why I am cautioning you in advance. I Read the rest of this entry

Steps To Freedom III

‘In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker then you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered’ 1Pet.3:7.

 

Today we will be learning some very important lessons from the story of a notable man of God. We began yesterday by saying his wife recently divorced him because he had neglected her. During the interview he said that top on his priority list was God, then the ministry, and then family. So God first, after that he attends to the ministry, and if he has anytime left he attends to family. You and I know that there will be no time left because the ministry work Read the rest of this entry

Steps To Freedom II

‘But we prayed to our God and guarded the city day and night to protect ourselves’ Neh.4:9

 

The third step towards freedom from abuse is to confront the abuser and the abuse. When you are confronting it you have to trust God for the outcome. This is where a lot of people miss it. They want to confront the abuser and they want to control the outcome. You cannot. When you are confronting the abuser and the abuse, you have to trust God for the outcome. The outcome can go anyway if it is a marriage relationship, which is what we are dealing Read the rest of this entry