Category Archives: Marriage
Compass
1 Cor.7:3 “The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. 4The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other of sexual relations…”
Some wives feel like this is the only Scripture that their husbands can quote verbatim. But the truth is that your body is not your own as our scripture reference today reveals. Check your own Bible and confirm. As a husband or a wife you cannot base intimacy on how you feel. The Bible frowns at it and calls such people defrauders. There is pleasurable intimacy and there is dutiful intimacy. Also in marriage, you cannot approach intimacy seeking your own fulfillment or feelings; you will not get anything that way. When the focus is Read the rest of this entry
Reward
Gen.29:25 “Morning came: There was Leah in the marriage bed!” [MSG, with emphasis]
We teach our people [intending and already married couples], that when in marriage, the package [everything you see] is your portion. We teach our people acceptance. You accept the totality of the other person. Just accept it because in the morning it will always be Leah. You have to accept your lot in life because that is how it is. Three times in the Book of Ecclesiastes [3:22, 5:18 & 19], the Bible admonishes us to accept our lot in life.
Life Lessons
“Otherwise, you might complete only the foundation before running out of money, and then everyone would laugh at you. They would say, ‘There’s the person who started that building and couldn’t afford to finish it!’” Lu.14:29-30
Yesterday, we learnt that the Pyrrhic victory is a victory that inflicts such a devastating blow on the victor that it is tantamount to defeat. Some victories deal more devastating blows to the victors. So the question is, is that argument really important? Is it more important for you to win the argument and lose your spouse? Is it worth it to get that money and lose the trust of Read the rest of this entry
Count The Cost!
“Or what king would go to war against another king without first sitting down with his counselors to discuss whether his army of 10,000 could defeat the 20,000 soldiers marching against him?” Lu.14:31
Interestingly, one of the key reasons why you should commit your life to Christ is because the outcome has been predetermined. In fact, it is a very dangerous thing to live without Jesus. In Christ, the outcomes have been predetermined. So we can take on the challenges being confident that the outcome has been predetermined. In our everyday lives we will be Read the rest of this entry
No Options
“As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband” Eph.5:31 & 33
The most secure places in God do not provide us with options. Marriage for instance, is one of most secured places. But God has not provided us with options in the marriage. Once you are married, you are married. No ‘plan B’. One man says, “what if my wife cannot do xyz, I need to have options”. There are no options because you are in one of the most secured places in God. And the most secured places in God do not provide us with options.
Saved To Serve
“Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves” Phil.2:3 [ASV, emphasis added].
We are saved to serve. Perry Nobel says, “Saved people serve people”. I attribute this statement to him because I have heard him say it the most. If you are saved, you are saved to serve. “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves” Phil.2:3 [ASV]. I trust that you are fired up to serve and the only question on your mind now is how Read the rest of this entry
The Difference
The liberal soul shall be made fat: and he that watereth shall be watered also himself” Prov. 11: 25 [KJV]
Yesterday we talked about the Sea of Galilee and the Dead Sea. The former is characteristic of a giver and the later is characteristic of a taker. You need to ask yourself the hard question and answer it truthfully, “Am I a Taker or am I a Giver?” “Am I the Sea of Galilee in my relationships or am I the Dead Sea in my marriage?” Taking is different from receiving. We all must examine ourselves and honestly answer these Read the rest of this entry
Domestic Affairs VI
“Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting for those who belong to the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and never treat them harshly. Children, always obey your parents, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not aggravate your children…” Col.3:18-21
God is saying to us this is how to live. However, you always have a choice with the Word of God. The Word of God is true and infallible but you always have a choice. You can either align or be out of line with the Word of God. When you align with the Word of God your marriage becomes awesome. When you align with the Word of God in choosing your marriage becomes Read the rest of this entry
Domestic Affairs IV
“Husbands, love your wives and never treat them harshly” Col.3:19
“Husbands, love your wives [be affectionate and sympathetic with them] and do not be harsh or bitter or resentful toward them” Col.3:19 [AMP, emphasis added]. A man goes out of his way trying to be nice and tries to buy his wife a gift. But the first thing the wife says is how much did you buy it? The man is not sure where this is going but he responds fifteen Read the rest of this entry
