Category Archives: Marriage
As Yourself
‘In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself’ Eph.5:28.
There is a French adage that says, “he who loves well, punishes well” [translated]. This was the mindset and pride of the medieval man. They believed that loving their wives meant punishing and disciplining her. And they even try to quote scripture, ‘the child that God accepts, God chastises’. She is your wife – not your child. You will never see in the Bible ‘husbands discipline your wives’. The mentality of the abuser, they think they have to take personal Read the rest of this entry
Mindsets
‘Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it …God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you’ Rom.12:2 [MSG]
Apart from the fact that the abuser has a major fundamental problem, the problem in an abusive relationship is not communication. The problem in an abusive relationship is the mindset of the abuser. This is so important because I have seen people try to address an abusive relationship as if they are addressing a communication problem. And many times it is a mindset that the person has had for decades. In some cases it stems from bad Read the rest of this entry
Be Merciful
‘There will be no mercy for those who have not shown mercy to others. But if you have been merciful, God will be merciful when he judges you’ James 2:13
The second type of abuse is verbal abuse. Verbal abuse is so subtle. I think this is one of the greatest destroyers. Physical abuse is major but verbal abuse is one of the greatest destroyers of marriages. Verbal abuse is when one partner just consistently speaks horrible things to the other partner. The husband/wife makes the other person look like a fool or an idiot consistently. It is an abuse. This Read the rest of this entry
As You Should
‘At last! The man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called woman, because she was taken from man’ Gen.2:23.
‘In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered’ 1Pet.3:7. When it comes to the subject of abuse, a lot of people have many questions running Read the rest of this entry
Your Responsibility
‘The humble will see their God at work and be glad. Let all who seek God’s help be encouraged’ Ps.69:32
I feel a need to stress this point again because a lot of people have abandoned their destinies for greener pasture. Yes, the grass sometimes appears greener on the other side. When you stand at a distance, the grass can look greener on the other side. But the reality is that when you get closer to that grass you will find that it is not greener. The grass is only greener where it is watered. So water Read the rest of this entry
Consistently Choose
‘Three things will last forever – faith, hope, and love – and the greatest of these is love’ 1 Cor.13:13
Love and sex are marathons. They are not sprints -they are marathons. Some people have a level they want to get to in their sexuality with their spouse and they want to achieve it on day one. That is not the way to go about it because you will hurt yourself and you will hurt your relationship. Sometimes, some things take time. You grow in loving your wife. As a man I had to learn, and you Read the rest of this entry
Start By Inviting God
‘And the Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness. For example, we don’t know what God wants us to pray for. But the Holy Spirit prays for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in words’ Rom.8:26.
Sex within marriage is an act of worship. We glorify God when we use the gift He has given us in the way He intended. If you can pray and you pray for your brother and he is healed. That is an act of worship. If you can sweep and you sweep well, it is an act of worship. Our service and our utilization of our gifts in the way that God has intended it is an act of worship. It also means that the abuse of the gift is an affront to God. The Read the rest of this entry
For Your Good II
‘But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband’ 1 Cor.7:2[NIV]
Songs of Solomon is a very graphic book when it comes to sexual relationships between a man and a woman. You cannot be holier than God. God says something is holy then it is holy. God says sex in marriage is honorable and the bed is undefiled. Then it is honorable. So why do you feel guilty anytime you make love with your spouse? Something is wrong somewhere. There was a lady that we had to do some form of deliverance for because every time she is with her Read the rest of this entry
Physical, Spiritual, and Emotional Oneness
‘The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality –the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband’ 1 Cor.7:3 [MSG]
Sex is a physical, spiritual, and emotional oneness. Sex transcends the physical. Meaning, sex is not just physical. When you have sex with someone, you are not just physically vulnerable to the person; you also carry every disease the person has. Therefore, you are also spiritually and emotionally vulnerable. So if the person is carrying a baggage of curses, when you have sex with him/her what happens is you get it too. When the person is carrying legions of demons when Read the rest of this entry
Leave Eros Alone I
‘Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right’ Sng.8:4.
If you are single, leave Eros alone until marriage. ‘I plead with you, I beseech you o women of Jerusalem not to awaken love until the time is right’ [Please also read Songs of Solomon 2:7, 3:5, 8:4]. And this is so important for those of us that are single. Don’t awaken this thing called Eros until the time is right. You will mess up too many things in your life. Let the sleeping dog lie. Don’t awaken it until the time is right. Why such a strong plea not to awaken love ahead of Read the rest of this entry
