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Love Works I
“Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” 1 Cor. 13:7 [emphasis added]
God wants us to understand that relationships, particularly covenant relationships, can be very tough. But at the end of the day, love overcomes all things. I once saw a video of a couple that grew old together in marriage. Along the line, the woman became ill even to the point of not recognizing the husband. But that man stayed fully committed to loving his wife. Only love can take you through such situations and keep you there everyday. “Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” I Cor. 13:7 [emphasis]. In real life you will face real disappointments but love endures through every circumstance. So what is that huge disappointment that you feel? Go to God with your disappointment and watch God do a miracle. Read the rest of this entry
God Alone!
“Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love.” Eph. 4:2 [TLB, emphasis added]
An anonymous quote reads, “You do not need a perfect relationship, you need someone who would not give up on you”. Will you be that person that would not give up on your loved ones? Go to God with disappointments and give it to God. The root of disappointment is expecting from a person what only God can deliver. When you expect from a person what only God can deliver, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. You are setting yourself up for disappointment when you expect another human being to Read the rest of this entry
Love Endures
“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” 1Cor.13:13 [NIV, emphasis added].
Go to God with the disappointments you feel in your relationships. However, in cases of character flaws, God says make allowances. For some people, the allowance might require you standing up to fill a gap in your relationship for a season. And in some other cases, it may mean a temporary separation until the other person is able to take responsibility for those errors and correct them. However, it does not mean you should give up on the relationship altogether because you never know what God can do. Sometimes the Read the rest of this entry
Allowance Not Excuses
“Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God” Rom. 15:7 [NIV, emphasis added].
If two people agree on everything, one person in the relationship is not necessary. For example, my wife fills some kegs with water. Years before, it would have been a major issue for me because I cannot understand why. She would say it is a standby for when there is no water. My thoughts were, women just want some form of security, so I dismiss it. Then one day, the water supply was actually cut off and I would have gone around smelling the whole day if she had not kept that water. Then I finally understood. The truth is that Read the rest of this entry
Simply Different
“So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.” Gen. 1:27 [NIV]
Yesterday, we established that some of the greatest frustrations we face in relationships are because we are different. We easily conclude, because the other person is different, that the other person’s actions are wrong. But difference is not error; difference is just difference. Many parents think that their teenage children are unwise. Many teenagers think their parents are old school. Many mothers in-law think their son’s wives are wasteful. Many wives think their husband’s mother is a witch. Many husbands think their Read the rest of this entry
Thank God
“If you go on hurting each other and tearing each other apart, be careful, or you will completely destroy each other.” Gal.5:15 [NCV]
You need people around you. If you are a man you need a woman, if you are a woman you need a man, that is, in a marriage situation. J.F. Newton says, “People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges”. Most of the time, it is because we “learn” from our experiences and so we come up with all sorts of gimmicks to protect ourselves. And because we are hurt, we go on to hurt other people. “Hurting people hurt people”. And because we are in pain, we inflict pain.
Relational Clarity
“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” 1Cor.13:13[NIV].
The quality of your life is directly proportional to the quality of your relationships. The quality of your life is not directly proportional to the quality of things that you own. The quality of your life is directly proportional to the quality of your relationships. If your relationships are sour, your life will be sour. Unfortunately, because we struggle in our relationships, we try to fill our lives with things. So we end up loving things and using people. It is a trap you should not fall into. God wants us to love people and use things.
Love’s Sake III
“…God will judge the sexually immoral” Heb. 13:4 [NIV]
God has not changed His standards. Premarital sex is unacceptable to God. A live-in partner is unacceptable to God. Adultery is unacceptable to God. Homosexuality is unacceptable to God. It always has been and it always will be. The law can change but it really does not matter. The law of man does not change the righteousness of God. The Bible says, God will judge sexual immorality. This is why I have been so transparent and open over the past few days. So that you will see that you are not alone. God can help you. If you Read the rest of this entry
Love’s Sake II
“Because we have these promises, dear friends, let us cleanse ourselves from everything that can defile our body or spirit. And let us work toward complete holiness because we fear God” 2 Cor.7:1.
Yesterday, we established that as far as sexual purity is concerned, you are going to have options but by the grace of God, by your determination and by your willingness to be accountable to other Christians, you will prevail. I have been married now for almost fifteen years and I can tell you that by my determination and by my accountability to other Christian Read the rest of this entry
Love’s Sake I
“And so, dear brothers, I plead with you to give your bodies to God. Let them be a living sacrifice, holy—the kind he can accept. When you think of what he has done for you, is this too much to ask?” Rom.12:1 [LB]
Live your life according to God’s standards. Ask Esau; he repented but he lived with the scar all his life. So I plead with you dear brothers and sisters, live your life according to God’s standards. Some of you are in a difficult marriage right now and you have begun to dabble into certain things. For some single adults, all you want is just someone to cuddle. My sincere advice is to cuddle your pillow. And I am saying this not because I want to be cynical, but because I love you. If only it were not going to cost you so much; but it is so I Read the rest of this entry
